I work in Tribeca, a picturesque neighborhood in Lower Manhattan lined with ancient cobblestone streets and ornate pre-war buildings radiating character and charm.
It is a trendy area housing some of the most expensive real estate on Manhattan Island. This is also a location that’s heavily populated with swells, many of them the name-brand variety.
In mid-afternoon, when I run errands, I encounter pampered youngsters clad in their colorful cold weather togs as they’re being met after school by their trophy wife mothers or their fulltime nannies. Everyone looks fashionably chic until I wend my way through the crowd, upsetting the style balance in my drab uniform, the type of duds that scant wages can afford. Compared to the beautiful mothers in their cutting edge fashions, my modest attire, best suited for office work or captivity, bears a distinct resemblance to offal.
One area where everyone is equal, at least when outside, is the great outdoors where we all suffer the consequences of the elements. Now that the season is the dead of winter, there have been days when the temperature has been frigid cold. Often, noses and eyes run like faucets. Even when bundled up, any exposed skin can instantly suffer searing pain. Therefore, it is best to walk at a quick clip, if only to sooner regain sensation in one’s face.
On an afternoon when the air was feeling particularly arctic I was walking up Hudson Street toward the pretty Powell building behind a handsome lad that looked to be about six.
He was walking hand-in-hand with his mother, who was in her thirties. He was wearing a blue parka and bright orange corduroy slacks. Mom was nestled in a floor length shapeless black down coat that looked familiar to me. It brought to mind a sleeping bag with sleeves. She must have missed the winter fashions newsletter. Appropriately, they were walking briskly, but not as brisk as motoring me. Just as I was overtaking them I overheard a snippet of their conversation:
Mom: When we get home I’ll make you a sandwich.
[pause]
Boy: Shit! It’s cold!
Although I was thinking the exact same thought myself, overhearing the little man drop the s-bomb was a most unexpected surprise. What really made me feel a bat squeak* of unease was that his mother seemed a-okay with it. I did not hear her admonishing her son in the least.
Had I the nerve to casually bleat that curse in the earshot of my mother when I was six, she surely would have detonated. As a child growing up in the sixties and seventies, an era when you served time rather than take a time out, my mother would have beaten every future utterance of both that word and the substance out of me. A beating that might not have ended until I reached age thirty.
That evening, I dined with my friend, Milton, and recounted what I had heard.
Milton: Are you sure he said “shit”? You know your hearing’s not the greatest. You could have misheard. Maybe he said another word that sounded like shit?
Me: What word sounds like shit other than shit?
Milton looked perplexed. He suggested:
Milton: Sheeeeeeee ahhhhhhhhhhh taaaaaaa, it’s cold!
Me: That kid didn’t say, “Sheeeeeeee ahhhhhhhhhhh taaaaaaa, it’s cold!” That kid said “shit”. Even my deaf ears know the difference between shit and shinola.
*Thank you Kate Shrewsday for adding “bat squeak” to my vocabulary.
Thanks – I needed a brisk motoring through downtown.
Love it,
R.
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Glad this tale served that purpose R, but I hope you did manage to brake when needed!
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V,
Excellent writing! Your words painted a vivid picture of the neighborhood and its inhabitants. While I enjoyed the photos, they served as support to your eloquent prose. Interesting commentary about the six-year-old’s choice of language and his mother’s lack of response. Maybe she didn’t hear him? Who knows. I’ve noticed they seem to be growing up faster, these days, but that’s amazing.
Cathy
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Isn’t there a TV series called something like “Kid Say the Darndest Things”? I think this little guy would have surely been censored. Maybe his mom wasn’t paying attention. I wanted to ask, “Hey kid, what was that you just said?” But it was so cold I just kept moving.
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Dear LA woman, it’s been about a year since I discovered your site via a link from your comment in the NYT Townies section. You may or may not recall that you and I had taken the time to air our thoughts regarding the Barista who was having to come to grips with the fact that even though he’d been published in some high-brow magazine (Paris Review) some people only recognizes him for his work pouring coffee. And for the record, in case I hadn’t already vented (as opposed ro veinteed) on the subject, I hate that pretentious word–the guy wasn’t the least bit Italian. Shit, I’m Italian and I refuse to use that word.
Digression aside, why I even brought it up in the first place is that no sooner had I read your post that I REFLEXIVELY hit the comment button without any real thought as to WTF I was going to say. Most of your loyal 7 readers who actually read my shit (maybe 1 or 2) wonder WTF whenever I put pen to paper (metaphorically speaking).
So that’s the point of this. At what point do your loyal readers get so conditioned in the Pavlovian sense that theyfor hit respond while bringing nothing to the table.?
BTW my mother would have dislocated my jaw if I ever said shit at that age. If she hasn’t just turned 82 on Monday she’d probably dislocate it this morning if she read my response.
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Only 3 iPhuckups today. Pretty good for not having finished my coffee yet.
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You’ve almost mastered that gadget. Almost.
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That was some improv commenting Mike G. Nice rebound. We’re definitely the spawn from the same type of mother. I completely forgot about that Townies story; that was published back in the day when Townies was NYC stories.
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What would you expect? She made him wear orange corduroys. That alone would make me curse.
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Good point child psychologist you. When I was about that boy’s age my mother made me wear yellow pajamas. My sister said I looked like a banana. Clearly, I never forgot that.
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And to this day, you curse like a sailor, eh?
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A sailor lite.
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I read your comments, Mike G. I and that other person are loyal and appreciative.
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Thanks SDS. The check is in the mail.
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Score!
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Of course the momster didn’t admonish her perfect spawn–you know why? Because parents these days are more concerned with being their kid’s friend, not the one, you know, who tells little Schyler that swearing in public is not polite, and to only reserve the salty language for the hired help.
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Or possibly he’s following his dad’s lead and I witnessed a Master of the Universe in the making?
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Master of his own wee universe perhaps…
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I’m sure you and your fab readers are well-aware of the blog STFU, Parents! it’s precious!
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I wasn’t, but I am now. Thanks Jules!
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Hilarious and sad and shocking and what are parents thinking these days????
I think they drop all kinds of bombs around their own homes and can’t possibly blame the little tykes for picking up a new word now and then….
Love the sleeping bag comparison. I always new there was something funny looking about those coats..
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Those coats could double as birth control.
I’ve seen people get shot in the street, Susie (actually, just one guy in the leg about 20-25 years ago), and this surprised me just as much as that … Maybe even more.
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Holy man! Now that is shocking… 🙂
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It was a long time ago, before people were shooting up schools, campuses, shopping malls, movie theaters, etc. I think it was a one on one drug-related dispute; the (cough) good ol’ days of shoot ’em up.
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You quickly became a hardened New Yorker it seems!
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Maybe … I think of myself as cynical and jaded with a pinch of optimism. Hey, at lest I was standing on the opposite side of the street where the bullets were fired.
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I am sure you felt well protected with all that air in between you…
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There was car exhaust, too.
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I love your walks around New York, LA! Even if it’s chilly, they’re always fun!
What that kid said doesn’t surprise me in the slightest… you should hear what they come out with over here. Actually, you should see what some of them DO as well!
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What some of them “DO” at age six, Tom?!? I don’t think I want to see that! Glad you enjoyed visiting Tribeca form the comfort of the mansion.
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Great tale of city kids, and laced with the most excellent vocabulary. I’m uneasy, batsqueak-wise, too. When did that become ok for a six year old?
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A week ago last Tuesday? Okay, probably never. May the late Art Linkletter rest in peace.
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Comforting to know that Maddie and Felix are two young class acts, but then again they’re growing up near a forest. Maybe that’s a factor in the politics of social behavior? Don’t be rude around a tree, or risk one uprooting and squashing you.
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Not sure why but I can’t see a single picture!!
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I was having connection problems with WordPress for a while, but everything seems to be working fine now. Try again Lisa!
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I would have been dragged by my hair all the way home and then made to eat a bar of soap if I had used such foul language. And that is precisely why I enjoy a colorful vocabulary as an adult ;0) I would have proudly walked through the sea of fashionably chic moms — me in my dockers, landsend loafers, red sox knit cap and butt ugly winter coat.
I stopped swearing in front of my kids when my four year old daughter asked me if the car in front of us was a fucker man. I am not a quiet driver..
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For the record, I was NOT driving in the car ahead of your that day. Thank you.
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are you sure.. you look vaguely familiar. here let me show you my finger and let me know if I look familiar
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Not so sure. Could you hold it up a bit higher? Did the car have Jersey plates?
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no we have more NYC plates in this area..darn weekenders(who I love really)
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Oh yeah, almost forgot, go Sawx!!!
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catchers and pitchers reporting .. YAY!! (hello by the way)
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Could John Lackey please turn into the pitcher we hopes he’d be? Otherwise it’s gonna be a loooong summer.
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it is gonna be long anyways but I am looking forward to some Pedro fun though. And they have Tek back in the fold. Hopefully the chemistry will be better this year and actually be fun to watch??
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They have a deep bullpen. Which is good cuz the starters were none too effective last season.
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it was a very painful season. I need to study the roster to just try to remember who is even playing anymore! I hope to get up there at least once this season. You would think with the starting rotation they HAD it would have been so much better..
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Audra, here’s a link from Thursday’s Boston Globe with the 40-man roster for Ft. Meyers (aka Fenway south.).
http://www.bostonglobe.com/2013/02/07/soxroster/7hDb2judLhK33AlU6XkIpO/story.html
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hey thanks! I have my new Sporting News baseball Preview 120 glorious pages of Baseball…yippeee
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ESPN put out its top 100 minor league prospects and coming in at #5 is Xander Bogaerts from, I believe, Aruba or some other part of that body of water I always have foible spelling. He’s very good hitting SS and has been in he system since he was a teenager. The Sox liked him so much they even signed his less talented brother just to get him on board a few years ago. They traded the weaker hitting 1B prospect last summer.
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I think I am in love with you and your stats acumen
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*blush*. Thanks and I love your unfettered BS.
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Sporting News has Sox finishing dead last..
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Apparently I have trouble spelling “trouble.”. Foible? Another beautiful iPhuckup.
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damn link won’t work. But I am working on it…
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Sorry about that. You have to be an ESPN Insider to access. A few shekels a year , but worth it of you’re a geek like me.
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mmmm perhaps. Not sure if I am in your realm of your geekdom –more as your grasshopper
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Wish there was a ‘reply all’ to you, two. Glad you’re letting off your Red Sox steam on a Yankee fan’s site.
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Stinkeeeeees
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I had intended to apologize for temporarily hijacking this site and morphing it into the BoSox therapy, support, and marching chowder society. But Audra has emboldened me to add: I hate the Yank-mees.
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if you should ever be inclined to not use LA space. Although I find it rather comfy and welcoming here. She does host a good party
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All I ask is everyone clean up after him or herself and please use plates.
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You’re lucky that Martini Max didn’t see that — and he lives in Jersey!
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I come from a mixed family. Mother and are Red Sox fans. Brother and father are Yankee fans. I can handle Yankee detractors.
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Even though I quickly became a Yankee fan, I’ll die a 49er fan.
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V is going to be angry at us stretching her comments out like this 🙂
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Wish there was a ‘reply all’ comment button. Glad you two are enjoying yourselves.
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your place is soo comfy
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Like a well worn Jack Purcell badminton shoe.
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Was waiting for her to tell us to “get a room.”
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haaa
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“I would have proudly walked through the sea of fashionably chic moms — me in my dockers, landsend loafers, red sox knit cap and butt ugly winter coat.” Audra, I appreciate that image. It completely killed my lady-boner.
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haaa and now my job is done.. I can kill any boner… lady or man. Truth is finally out of the closet
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This is the site that welcomes all kinds of coming out …
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well and now you know, I am butt ugly
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This is the site with the Elephant Man Muffin, so figure you’re in good company.
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She’ll get over it.
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My 16 yr old daughter isn’t even allowed to say it. Both my boys have tasted soap. I wouldn’t have a fit if she DID say shit but she knows she’s not supposed to.
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Or at least not until she’s behind the wheel of a car and some turd takes the parking space she thought was hers. Seriously, I agree with you.
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Oh the memories of growing up in the sixties and getting ass whippings for this kind of thing. That does strike me odd that this 6 year old so casually responded to his mom this way. But I must tell you ashamedly that my 5 year old nephew’s response in the back seat of the car to his father rolling down the window allowing an insane blast of air into the car was “Oh shiiiit!” The problem is that my sister and husband curse, not incessantly, but they have done it in ear shot of the little one. So it would be hypocritical for them to punish him for it. My sister has spoken to him about it, telling him it isn’t nice and that she and daddy would have to be more careful. He’s a good obedient kid but that does concern me a bit. They have doled out a couple of butt whippings, but as one of my friend’s said about beating her kids, it really doesn’t help — she said it teaches them violence. Another one of my friends said she thought it was barbaric. You know, this is why I opted out of having critters — there’s too much of these considerations — oy!
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Now that you’ve donned your sociologist chapeau, Sandee, I think you might be onto something here. My sister went out of her way to watch her language around my heir and niece, Sweet Pea. My sister didn’t make a big deal about us swearing around her kid, but we got the message that she didn’t condone it so we made an effort to censor ourselves. Sweet Pea, who’s now 18 and essentially an adult, swears sparingly. She’s a rather mannered young woman. I think it has a lot to do with her parents setting a positive example that sunk into her head. You talk like a character out of a David Mamet play, your spawn just might, too.
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Hehehe! I wrote a story based on the relationship I have with my mom called “Your Spawn, Mona.”
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Ah, how sweet and sentimental sounding! My mother often referred to me as her egg, but was too kind to add the adjective “rotten”.
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V,
I have commented above, but did want to share a story…It’s my impression that kids, from any era, seem to latch onto the “forbidden words.” Recently, my sister shared the story about her two-year-old grand daughter who seems to be somewhat delayed in her development of speech. The child will mimic one-syllable words but until recently, wouldn’t use two syllables.
Then, last week, as the two-year-old climbed the stairs from my sister’s garage into the house ahead of her grandmother, my sister dropped the child’s McDonald’s Happy Meal, spilling its contents onto the concrete floor of the garage and exclaiming: “Oh crap!” Whereby she heard a soft child’s voice say at the top of the stairs: “Oh, cwap.” And thus two syllables…
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Cathy, that’s hilarious! Thanks for sharing. I completely agree with this statement you made, “It’s my impression that kids, from any era, seem to latch onto the “forbidden words.” I certainly did, but I had enough self-control, sense, fear and respect to refrain from saying them when in the presence of my mother. I’m old school, so I think that’s a good thing.
Feel free to comment over here whenever the mood strikes.
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I am embarrassed to admit that my three year old used the f word (or the fuck word, as my Aunt Eva used to say) in perfect context today. I was contemplating just going with it, as I know that any attention to these things tends to exacerbate things. Your anecdote has made me realize what I would appear like to the world if I did: a giant douchehole who is letting her kids run wild(er). So tomorrow we taste soap.
Also, cold is fucking terrible.
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Jen, if I recall the basic math about twins, with the assistance of my abacus, calculator and fingers, you have two three-year-olds, but only one has dropped the f-bomb? If the other one hasn’t, I’d be very inclined to let the one that has take a meeting with the family censor.
You are subject to quite a bit more cold than me over there in Calgary, so you’re allowed to drop all the f-bombs you like, but you’re also age six several times over.
Good to hear from you pal!
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Thanks for giving me a new word, “douchehole.” At first I looked at it on my iPhone as I traveled to Hoboken in what most likely will be called the FSOTC–fucking storm of the century–and said to myself hmm. After careful reflection and a trip down memory lane to freshman year biology, I said, yeah for every douchebag there must be a corresponding douchehole. Of course I am particular to “twat” but again, thanks for the new word!
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After hearing this story, I was tempted to pull a Milton (by which I mean question what you think you heard, not threaten to burn down the building if my red Swingline isn’t returned safely), but given your adamant denial of that scenario, I can’t see any other explanation.
I like cursing, but not in young kids. I think 14 is the right age to drop f and s bombs. My mom always used to tell me that cursing was the sign of a weak vocabulary. She was a wise woman, but she was wrong here: it is self-evident that your vocabulary grows for every swear word in your arsenal.
I’ve always loved the name Tribeca–it sounds so exotic to me. Isn’t the name an amalgam of some kind.
And how, in a world of BatPats, Vooms and M. Redglare, does poor Milton remain merely mortal?
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Smak, “Milton” pre-dates all actually. His “character” has popped up in humor essays that pre-dated this site. The name — professorial, classic, writerly (think the English poet) — works for him since that’s essentially who he is. What a bland explanation of a colorful guy, so I should add that he has quite a fondness for glitter.
You’re right, Tribeca is indeed an amalgam — for TRIangle BElow CAnal (Canal’s a street in lower Manhattan). New York is big in amalgams — Nolita NOrth of Little ITAly, FiDi (FInancial DIstrict), SoHo (SOuth of HOuston — and its pronounced HOUSE-ton, not WHOSE-ton).
I was definitely cursing like a Teamster by age 14, but not around my mother. Must prepare to head out into the FSOTC– Mike G.-ism for fucking storm of the century. The white stuff is falling right now and sticking.
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Yes, potty-mouth brats are running rampant these days. Perhaps their parents are so far in debt they can’t afford decent bar of lye soap.
I couldn’t help but notice the bars on your window and the mention of a uniform. Do they also stamp a number across the front of your shirt to distinguish you from the other employees? I think I’ve worked at a few places like that.
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As usual. all spot on observations Russell. I blame the economy for every problem in the world, but if I can’t somehow blame the economy, I blame religion.
My company’s a mom and pop shop. We don’t do stamps, but most of us now wear several hats in homage to downsizing.
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The thing that struck me about “Sheeeeeeee ahhhhhhhhhhh taaaaaaa” is that if you took the s-word and wrote it out in hangul – the Korean alphabet – and then read it back in English, that’s the exact pronunciation the word would have. Maybe Milton’s onto something.
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Thanks for sharing this vital factoid Emily! I cannot wait to tell Milton that he stumbled upon speaking Korean like a native in our go-to watering hole! One question: if we wrote “Sheeeeeeee ahhhhhhhhhhh taaaaaaa” in Hangul, what word is that? I hope you go not come back and tell us that it’s “fungus”.
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Hmmmm that’s a good question! I may have to ask my friend whose Korean is really good 😀
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Oh, please do! Maybe it means something romantic like “carcass”.
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Hi there Lame! Love the stroll, even in the cold. Powell Bldg looks awesome …. and yes, I believe you heard the kid right!
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I know the day is fast approaching when I’ll need a hearing horn, I think I did, too, Frank. Nice for you to stop by after your vacation!
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Oh my … the hearing horn is such a classic image. Meanwhile, I’m trying to catch up, but heck … I’m tired.
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I’ve only gone to work and back all week, but I’m so behind in all of my blog reading, you’d think I’d actually spent the week orbiting the globe in an Acme-brand jetpack.
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Yep … but too cold for an Acme jetpack. 😉
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One would definitely need to wear a well insulated space suit or just gas up the space capsule.
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🙂 … how much snow did you get?
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Compared to the rest of the Northeast, a minor dusting was recorded in Central Park, a mere 11.4 inches
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Wow. My in-laws were surprised when I call them on my return yesterday as they figured I was flying through NYC … and that was the first I heard about the storm!
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I’m sure you’re not alone in being unaware of it, Frank. I’m sure that folks in Siberia haven’t a clue, and for those that do, they probably think that we’re a bunch of wimps over here.
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Touche!
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I haven’t heard the expression “shit from shinola” in a lonnnnng time. I didn’t know you worked in Tribeca. It’s nice down there, except for the entitled moms and stuff. I’m always amazed and horrified at hearing kids curse, and/or hearing parents curse in front of (or worse, AT) their kids. Although I’m glad he at least cursed appropriately and in the proper context.
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The Shinola wall in Tribeca did bring to mind that expression which, generally, is not at the forefront of my thoughts, Weebs. I was taken by equal surprise when that youngster mouthed off like that coupled with his mom being unfazed with it. Guess I’m just not hip to new-age child lingo.
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As someone living in Hinterland, the only thing I’ve heard about Tribeca is the film festival. Thanks for the info on the fashion and language as well. Always a pleasure to know more about your neck of the woods. 😉
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I’m sure that the s-word is uttered up in your part of the world, Arti, but I suspect out in the Hinterlands, it’s not permissible for small-fry to do the uttering, especially in the presence of their mothers. Nice to hear from you!
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No shitty pidgeons on your windowsill?
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They were feeling camera shy.
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I’m confused about one part of this. The view from your window suggests you are up a few stories. If so, why are there bars on the window? Are the pigeons in NY clad in leather jackets and bide their time by breaking and entering? If so, NY is awesome!
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Why the bars are needed outside our fifth floor windows Mike has always been the source of a lot of head-scratching amongst my colleagues. I tell them that it’s not because of fear that anyone might come in (with or without feathers) but the fear that one of us might actually get out.
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Hard to argue against that. But I am praying for career years from about, say, 18 of the guys that make it to Fenway this season.
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